BLOG: Twelve months anniversary: of having no sleep!

Sleep deprivation is tough, I’ve figured out that I haven’t had a full nights sleep since I was about 30 weeks pregnant so coming up to 12 months now.

By Francesca Naylor
Thursday, 27th November 2014, 8:16 am
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Francesca Naylor
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Poppy had a little teaser of a month where she was sleeping through until 4/5am then back to sleep until 8.

Right now we’re on a month straight of pretty much hourly wakings.

You know my stance on sleep training and despite the constant fog of tiredness that has permeated my entire being, that remains unchanged. I will parent as responsively during the night as I do during the day.

I’m tired of looking for excuses, is it another tooth? Is she coming down with another cold? Could it be wind? Stomach ache? That morsel of casserole she are at lunch time might have been a bit onion-y. Check the Wonder Weeks app, she must be having some kind of major mental development.

Let’s just face facts here guys, my baby isn’t one of those angel-baby, dream sleepers.

She wakes up. A lot.

But I’m OK with it now because I’ve learned:

A) it’s totally normal for babies to wake frequently during the night to nurse/for comfort well into the 2nd year of life - check out

B) I can’t change my baby or force her to act or be a certain way because it would be more convenient for me

C) this won’t last forever and actually, midnight cuddles in the dark, calm, quiet are actually pretty nice

So the tactic is what can I do to make it easier whilst I am still totally shattered?!

We’ve made alterations so the cot is now side-carred with the bed so I have more space plus it’s safer now Poppy is rolling and crawling.

Co-sleeping means I barely open my eyes just roll over and either pat, cuddle, feed or whatever but barely waking up myself.

Sleep when Poppy sleeps, although I have to point out sleep-deprivation insomnia is a genuine thing.

Eat well - or try to, this may or may not include a rather generous Snickers quotient.

Be kind to myself. Having wrangled with thoughts that I must be doing something wrong, I’ve realised this is just the way it is for now. Next week it’ll all have changed...I hope!

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August: read more

August: Guilty secret.

August: In two minds.

October: vacation baby.

November: robbie williams.

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