Today’s columnist, Andrea Moon: Love is in the air in cyberspace

Andrea lives with her family in Norton (previously from Warrington) and currently works in Direct Delivery for The Star. She can be heard periodically as a panelist on BBC Radio Sheffield.
Andrea lives with her family in Norton (previously from Warrington) and currently works in Direct Delivery for The Star. She can be heard periodically as a panelist on BBC Radio Sheffield.
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Although happy with my lot at 37, (self-employed, close friends/family, well-travelled, varied social life, own house and car), I felt “something” was missing, or rather “someone”.

I’d dated over the years, but now wanted to settle down and live the sanitised family life portrayed by advertisers. I even had the archetypal spinster’s cats to ease the pain of solitude.

Finding love in a bar, gym or club was proving to be hard, so I decided to treat it like looking for a new job, not very romantic I know, but where had romance got me before?

I signed up online and decided to avoid my usual “type” in order to avoid previous mistakes and had a few friendly dates with “nice” men but there was no “sparkle”.

The more dates I went on, the more I knew what I was willing to accept and what I wasn’t. I wanted a normal working man with no illegal vices. Someone to laugh with, who had left home before 45, with a car, who could handle money, between 30 and 60. Too much to ask? I knew that the loneliest I had been was with the wrong person and that I would prefer to be alone than settle for Mr Right-Now.

I’ll save you the graphic tear-stained disappointments and the wasted make-up.

Eventually I hardened up and started to see this as an opportunity to drop the desperation and just enjoy meeting people.

I became good at reading body language and between the lines. I sent “cyber winks” to men that I’d have been too shy to talk to in person. Faint heart never won fair ‘gentleman’.

When I received a marketing email about men from either end of the country I sent one man a “wink”. He was from Sheffield.

After two weeks of emailing and phoning we met up. After three months I’d moved across to Sheffield and rented out my house. After six months I was pregnant with twins.

Four years later we married. Now after more than seven years together, I find it hard to believe there’s still a stigma about internet dating. I hear lots of stories of happy couples who met online.

As long as you make sure that you meet in a public place, play it safe and be realistic with expectations it can be fun and maybe even the start of something new.